“I Need You”
“I need you.” Sometimes we struggle with this phrase. On one hand, we might use this phrase to talk about other people, not ourselves: “I need you to stop hitting your sister.” “I need you to do a load of laundry before I get home.” It’s not about “I” but about “you” – you need to do something for me so that I can feel a certain way.
And, yet the phrase can also express our actual need for another person; and sometimes we struggle with that, too. It’s all too easy to approach life with a mindset of independence – we should go off and make a name for ourselves; handle life all on our own. Expressing that we “need someone” is simply a sign of weakness. We think we’re supposed to pull our own weight; we aren’t supposed to depend on someone else.
But here’s the thing, God never meant for us tackle life alone.
One of my favorite accounts in the Bible is the creation account given in Genesis 1 and 2. We see God speaking into existence all sorts of things – light and sky and dry land, plants and stars and living things. What’s neat is that each part of creation depends upon the other parts of creation for survival. The sun and the moon need light to actually shine. The plants of the land need the sun and water to make their food. The land, sky, and sea are the habitats for all forms of life. The land animals cannot eat without vegetation. Everything is all tied up with each other. What was created on one day is necessary for something created on another day – part of God’s design for creation itself was that everything would be interdependent – no single part of creation can go at it alone. And each day, God looked over His creation and saw that it was good.
But did you realize that in the creation account there was a time when God looked over His creation and said it wasn’t good?
Genesis 2 gives an intimate retelling of the creation of Adam. God formed the dust of the ground and breathed life into this body he made – Adam became a living creature. And, Adam was given the task of tending to creation. And, in the midst of this creation account, God says this:
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
God never meant for us to go at life alone. From the very beginning, God created someone else for Adam – He formed Eve from one of Adam’s ribs. Man being alone is the only thing in creation that God says is not good – and so God took the steps to make it good. He created Eve. And then, mankind together, male and female, God looked at creation and said it was very good.
I share this because for a time, we were forced to go at life alone, as best as we could. We were stuck at home. We worked from home. We ordered oodles and oodles of stuff from Amazon. We could get our groceries from Aldi without ever leaving our car. And while we were able to function through this time, deep down we knew it wasn’t how life was supposed to be lived.
We need each other. We need human interaction. We need human presence. Part of God’s very design for creation is interdependence. We are created for community. The people around us are important – it’s how God provides for our very well-being!
We need each other. Keep this in mind. For over a year now we have been forced to try and go at life alone, as best as we can. And that was kind of a mess. Any steps that kept us from other people really hurt. This wasn’t how life was supposed to be lived.
So as the country starts opening up again, I encourage you to get back into community. Don’t go it alone. Rather, come back to church. Spend time with your neighbors out on the patio. Go visit family you haven’t seen for so long. Get back in your community group. Spend time with people – we were never meant to be alone. But, also keep your eyes open for those who are still stuck alone. Walk alongside them and share in life together. They need you. We need you. I need you.
In His Hands
Pastor Matt Conrad