Don’t Lose Your Marbles
When it’s hot enough to fry your breakfast on the sidewalk, you’re not sure if today is STREAM camp or a softball game, and you’re staring down a mountain of laundry that needs to be either packed for or unpacked from your fun, old-fashioned family vacation, my advice to you is, “Don’t lose your marbles.” While that may sound like a platitude from a woman who is only required to keep herself and some plants alive, it’s not quite the sentiment you may think.
I often use an illustration called a marble jar. From the moment children are born to the time they turn 18, you have 936 weeks with them. 936 weeks to nurture them, to mold them, to love them more than life itself (even when you’re losing your marbles!). 936 weeks. Coincidentally, this number of marbles fills a gallon pickle jar pretty neatly. I use the marble jar to illustrate for parents how much time they have with their kiddos.

Here is another jar with a third of the marbles missing. This is six. The end of kindergarten. Already one-third of the marbles have passed you by. Okay, that’s still depressing. Sorry. I don’t say this to make you feel guilty or to put you into some sort of parenting panic. I tell you this because so often, when we count how much time we have left, we make that time count. Think about your vacation countdowns or your Advent calendars. We know how much time we have, and we make sure to use it wisely. I tell you these things because I want you to make every week count.
There’s a particular week you may be missing this year: VBS (Vacation Bible School). I know that many people have been wondering why Cross isn’t hosting VBS this year, and it’s not because that week didn’t count. However, Children’s Ministry is shifting focus so that we can help parents make the most of the marbles we have left. The truth of the matter is that if you took the marbles that represent how much time church has with your kids, even if they attend two hours a week and a week in the summer, it doesn’t even cover the bottom of the jar.
I took an informal survey of everyone I could find in the building one day and asked them, “Who or what had the biggest influence on your faith growing up?” Here’s a list of the answers:
- My grandma who brought me to church every Sunday.
- My grandmother who lived her faith out loud.
- My dad who brought me to worship every week and prayed with me.
- My dad who read his Bible and instilled biblical values in us.
- The people of faith in my life.
- My parents.
- Serving at church with my family (earlier in life) and friends who didn’t just invite me to church but picked me up and sat with me in worship (later in life).
- Being in church with my family.
- The people.
- Regular church attendance and worship habits at home (prayer before meals and bedtime).
- My grandmother.
- Friends.
- Camp counselor.
You see, the biggest factor in a child’s faith isn’t how amazing our programs are or the latest and greatest curriculum; it’s about the relationships we have with people of faith. Research (not just my informal poll) shows that the biggest influence on a child’s faith is the faith modeled by Mom and Dad at home. The second is a non-parent role model. That’s why we’re focusing more on equipping you as a family to have faith conversations and to build relationships with other believers. Together, we can work to nurture faith and make every marble count.
Here are a few opportunities we’ll have this summer to equip families to share faith together:
- June 26 – Outdoor Worship at 10 AM, followed by family games and fellowship
- Bring your chairs for outdoor worship with a children’s message and activities fitting the theme of the day.
- Join us afterwards for a game of gaga, some nine square, bags, a pick-up game of kickball or just some fun on the playground. We’ll have hot dogs, chips and water available, so you won’t have to worry about those after church munchies.
- July 24 – Summer Splash Party (after 10 AM Church)
- You’d be surprised how many Bible stories involve water. Join us for some stations that help us learn more about the Bible and will keep us cool in the summer heat.
- August 21 – Summer Jam (10:30 AM in the large gym)
- This awesome event gets families worshiping together and learning more about how we can incorporate God’s Word into our everyday lives. It’s a celebration big enough for the whole family with fun, games and music.
I look forward to seeing you this summer! Let’s make these marbles count!
Miss Kayla
(Kayla Olson, Coordinator of Children and New Family Ministries)
Scripture Readings for Sunday, June 26
Galatians 5:1, 13–25
Luke 9:51–62